Em Rusciano's Journey to Finding Balance: A Story of Self-Discovery
Em Rusciano, a multi-talented powerhouse, has embraced a new perspective on life after her ADHD and autism diagnoses.
This remarkable 46-year-old, known for her writing, singing, podcasting, and comedy, has shared her journey in her latest memoir, "Blood, Sweat, and Glitter: A Coming of Middle Age Story." It's a raw and honest account of the past seven years, including her experiences as a single mother to three neurodivergent children, her journey through perimenopause, and the life-changing impact of her diagnoses.
But here's where it gets controversial... Em, a self-proclaimed "maximalist power queen" from the Yarra Valley, reveals how these diagnoses have transformed her life and her approach to self-care.
In her own words, she's moved from a mindset of "set yourself on fire to keep others warm" to a more self-nurturing approach: "Look after yourself, prioritize your well-being, and take risks." It's a powerful shift that many can relate to.
And this is the part most people miss... Em shares how her diagnoses have helped her embrace her unique perspective on the world. She's no longer burdened by shame, but instead, she celebrates her ability to think creatively and express herself through writing and art.
"I'm lucky to have these big feelings and the ability to create, knowing that my work can make others feel less alone and inspire them to live a life filled with love," she says.
So, what does self-care look like for Em?
- Breaks: Even a week with no commitments, including the kids, can be a game-changer. She finds that a less scheduled life sparks her creativity.
- Saying No: As a woman in the creative arts, Em emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries. She asks herself a simple question: "Does this opportunity point me towards the life I want, or away from it?"
- Focus Techniques: Em delegates tasks that might trigger her ADHD, like emails and folding laundry. She knows her strengths and weaknesses and sets herself up for success.
But what about comfort and relaxation?
- Comfort Food: With four autistic family members, tacos are a staple. A simple, nostalgic dish that brings joy.
- Unwinding: Em finds solace in vintage markets, where she can visually stimulate her senses and find dopamine-inducing treasures.
- Nature's Call: As a Piscean, she's drawn to the ocean, finding peace and relaxation near the water.
Em's Advice for Self-Care:
"Say what you mean and mean what you say." - A simple yet powerful mantra, especially for neurodivergent individuals like herself.
"Truly prioritizing your own well-being is the hardest, but most rewarding, thing a woman can do. It's not selfish; it's essential. When you take care of yourself, you show up better for everyone else."
So, what's your take on Em's journey? Is self-care a priority in your life? How do you unwind and take care of yourself? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!
